"In homes which cradle imminence there
are strong tendencies to build directly on personal strengths, talents, and aims rather than to assume that there
is a large specific body of knowledge that everyone should experience."
"Every student deserves to be treated as a potential
"I was a child that both my parents wanted.
I was told from the time I was born that I was totally satisfactory. I had a chance to be what I wanted to be."
"Your capacity to love is your capacity
to experience the I of another."
"To recognize anothers inwardness is to
have seen the sacred."
"We can help a person to
be himself by our own willingness to steep ourselves temporarily in his world, in his private feelings and experiences. By
our affirmation of the person as he is, we give him support and strength to take the next step in his own growth."
"We encourage people to believe that there
is only one identity, one role, one way for them to be, one value for them to fulfill, rather than a host of possible
'incarnations' to be lived in a lifetime."
Sidney M. Jourard
"Allow humans to be themselves and celebrate
Love the metaphoric mind and respect the rational.
any attempt at communication appropriate.
Celebrate the whole person."
that every writer is secretly writing for someone."
"My mother was very sympathetic.
was the one who really gave me the courage to take my freedom."
"If a man is to shed the light of the sun upon
other men, he must first of all have it within himself."
"A sound philosophy of life, I think, may be
the most valuable asset for a psychiatrist to have when he is treating a patient."
"What I do requires fantastic concentration...
but you can't be totally alone, or you lose all contact with reality, so even when I'm engrossed and secluded,
Jack Dunphy can be there. He's my oldest and best friend, and best critic too."
"Tell the child, "Look, I love you, I believe
in you. I know you are going through a lot of upset and you need to tell me to go to hell with every other breath
these days, which I'm quite willing to accept;
the only thing that counts is that in the long run, you
find out who you are and you live it."
This is hard for parents to say genuinely.
I was sustained by one piece of
inestimable good fortune. I had for a friend a man of immense and patient wisdom and a gentle but unyielding fortitude.
I think that if I was not destroyed at this time by the sense of hopelessness which these gigantic labors has
awakened in me, it was largely because of the courage and patience of this man.
I did not give in because he would
not let me give in."
"I had always said to myself that forty
was the cut off point of my apprenticeship which may for some people, sound like a very long one, but the novel as art
is a middle-aged art.
I was very frightened when I turned forty. I suddenly thought I ought to wake up and be
speaking with the voice of God.
I said that to my mother and she said,
"you've been speaking with the voice
of God since you could talk! Don't worry about it!"